Healing Lust, Sexual Deviance and Restoring Divine Feminine

Young women should be told from day one that they will be preyed upon sexually. It is not debatable. It is a fact. Sex is a part of life. The one thing young girls need to know above all else is that it does not matter what they look like, plain or beautiful, how sweet or sexy they can be or how popular they are. All females are seen as a possible sexual conquest by someone. And if a guy is not interested in you, trying to seduce him is not going to make him interested in YOU. It is going to get a guy with no values laid or worse put you in a dangerous situation. That's it. Women often try to justify their longing to be loved or desired by saying "Oh I am using them it's not the other way around" as if using someone means they can't use you too. If it is all about using each other then fine, no one can judge you for that. But often it is really about the need to be loved and accepted and cherished not used even though young women often tell themselves it is not. And even if a girl truly believes it is about her right to express her sexuality then you cam compare it to carrying a gun. You may have a right to carry (in most states)but that doesn't mean you should flaunt it or go around shooting people for attention. You should never use sex as a weapon. That has a tendency to backfire on you. We have to teach our young girls that their bodies are works of art to be revered and taken care of. Nudity is not shameful. What we do with our bodies and how we think about them is often shameful.

Lust is the first affliction. Society has suffered such degradation now that we overlook and even revel in the seven deadly sins. It's prudish to preach about lust and greed and vengeance right? It is all over reality tv. People lap it up. And that is the beginning of the end of civilization. We turn our backs on reverence and decency because it is "not cool". The mind game played on women has been so successful in the middle east that women actually believe covering from head to toe is necessary so as to not tempt a man. Some do it for their religion but it is only a practice because men wrote it into the laws, because they blamed women for their lust. And in the west women believe they are so empowered that they can get naked and twerk and there is nothing wrong with that. Oh yeah, you pulled one over on men. Right. That is not empowerment. That is like making a dog sit and stay while you scream at him angrily to fetch a steak. That is immature, and sorry for comparing men to dogs. It was the first analogy that popped into my head. Of course not all men are unable to control themselves but they can spot a needy woman a mile away. In fact I believe they have a built in radar for that.

Women are not responsible for what a man thinks of her body whether they are fully clothed or naked. Woman can be responsible for putting themselves in the position of being judged by others but they can never ever be blamed for being physically touched or attacked due to their appearance. I remember seeing Miley C. doing her thang on the MTV awards and I said something about it because people criticizing her were completely missing the point. Nudity is not a problem. Behavior is. It is the context of what is happening and necessarily what is said or done. Not being ashamed of one's body is different than publicly degrading yourself sexually. Young women reach an age where they are very eager to express their sexuality because it is nature. But if they used their frontal lobes they would see that there is plenty of time and they are not in danger of never having sex. You are in danger of never getting respect. You don't have to degrade yourself or beg for sex ever. "All a woman has to do is show up". Harrison Ford said that once. When you are loved and cherished by someone, they think you are beautiful without makeup, in sweats or cleaning the toilet. That is love. Sex is about reproducing and having fun all of which is your personal choice so you should treat it as a great responsibility and blessing to find someone to share that with. The intensity of the sexual drive and experiences will not last but true love will even if you part ways. Love is not desire to be with someone. The desire to be with someone is because you like them and enjoy their company.

When you get older the fired up hormones will start to mellow out because you are no longer all about sexually attracting a man to get pregnant.  As you mature regardless of your age you start to realize pure bliss of being is far more precious that a 2 to 8 second orgasm. Being on the same frequency as the person you love is the best feeling there is. But corporations capitalize on lust so they shame men into keeping it hard with pills and pressure and shame women into buying products and having surgery to stay young and sexy. And society laps it up. The mutual respect between men and women is the answer to healing the sexual repression of the past and present. Covering a woman from head to toe is not the answer. Men must not see women as a threat. Men and women must not see each other as objects. Lust, insecurity, low self esteem and ignorance are really the root cause of issues with sexual abuse and sexism. And there are very strong social and religious stigmas in place that cause hangups with nudity which is a distraction from the real issues. It is not just women facing the brunt of the abuse. Sexual deviance effects everyone. It is a mental illness. It is not a matter of right and wrong. It is about acceptable and unacceptable behaviors according to what we believe is healthy or not healthy. Rehabilitate. Educate. And you will alleviate much of the pain and suffering in our world.